Myrna Loy Steinke Smith was born in Cedar Rapids, Iowa, August 18, 1950. Myrna lived life on her own terms, unapologetically. She faced death with bravery, grit and determination. On January 22, 2024, Myrna departed this life, to return to God and to rest at last, her body made whole again.
Of the ten children in her family, Myrna was number eight. Her siblings Jim, Joe, Tom, Cathy, George and Lenny are left to mourn the loss of their sissy. Siblings Bob, Darlene and Billy, and parents, Arthur and Marvel Steinke, met Myrna at heaven's gates. Myrna attended Tyler Elementary School, McKinley Junior High, and Washington High School.
At age 17, Myrna married Art Stephens and gave birth to daughter Dawn Marie. The trio lived briefly in Hawaii, which was the only place besides Cedar Rapids that Myrna ever lived! One and a half years later, daughter Angela Ranee was born. Myrna and Art divorced, opening the door for Myrna to meet the true love of her life, Carter Smith. They were married December 31, 1973. Son Kristofor Alan arrived in 1975. Myrna adored being a wife and mother.
Myrna's career was spent with the Cedar Rapids Community School District. Her first job was as a P.E. paraprofessional at Kennedy High School, earning $3.30 per hour in 1978. From 1979-1988 she was Principal's Secretary at Hayes, Adams, Grant Wood and Erskine elementaries. From 1989-2001, Myrna worked as Confidential Secretary to many leaders at the Educational Service Center (ESC). In 2002, after a brief retirement, Myrna returned to the ESC as an Executive Assistant, serving in that capacity until 2005. Myrna was passionate and professional about her work. She was an invaluable resource to her colleagues. It was often said that Myrna RAN the district. The most important part of Myrna's career was the lifelong friendships she made with nearly everyone she worked with, many of whom became like family for the rest of her life.
Outside of work, Myrna's life with Carter was full of road trips, estate sales and auctions, thrift shopping, meals with friends, and spending time with family. Myrna LOVED Hawkeye football and watched almost every Iowa game with her siblings. Myrna was addicted to shopping for antiques, and she was an excellent decorator. She had an eclectic style that turned her house into one of the most welcoming homes you could ever hope to visit. And she rearranged it constantly! After her retirement, Myrna met with friends every Friday to play cards. She was an avid reader. She attended her grandchildren's concerts and sporting events. Myrna and Carter were always on the go, and always together.
Christmas was Myrna's absolute favorite holiday, and it began the minute the Thanksgiving dishes were put away. Myrna and Carter's home was the embodiment of Christmas spirit, being adorned top to bottom with the most beautiful trees, lights, and dancing toys. Every person who stepped through their door had an immersive Christmas experience! Each year, grandchildren Madeline, Lucy, Emma, Nina, George, Codie, Emily, Hunter and Kennedy watched in amazement as the gifts under the tree seemed to multiply every day before Christmas. The mountain of gifts under the tree truly represented Myrna's combined loves of Christmas and giving. During the other eleven months of the year, Myrna's decorations were permanently displayed in the most magical room in her home, the Santa Room.
Myrna was so many things to so many people. She was a hard worker. She was loyal beyond compare. She was the life of the party. She was hard-headed and stubborn, silly, helpful, a problem-solver, forgiving, generous, tough, hilarious, naughty, connected, organized, outspoken, intelligent, loving, resilient. She was everyone's favorite aunt. She was a pain in the rear. She was vibrant and feisty. She was a party-planner, a gatekeeper, a listener, a caregiver. She was the anchor for countless people. She loved her family with the entirety of her being. Myrna was the glue that held her family together. She did all of this as long as she physically could.
The last few years were challenging for Myrna as non-alcoholic cirrhosis of the liver progressed and worsened, alongside other ongoing health issues. Myrna had a sizable care team who cared as deeply for her as she did for them. At the Hall-Perrine Cancer Center, Myrna spent countless hours receiving iron infusions and blood transfusions, all in hopes of adding quality and time to her life. In usual Myrna fashion, she knew all of her nurses and techs by name, she knew their children and spouses personally, and she was even a guest in some of their homes. Myrna regularly provided snacks and treats for the staff who so lovingly cared for her. To all of Myrna's caregivers, the family extends their deepest gratitude for the time they were given with Myrna because of the love and care you provided to her. You are all absolute angels on earth and she loved and appreciated each of you.
Yes, Myrna loved fiercely. If she loved you, she had high expectations for you. Sometimes it was hard to meet those expectations. When that happened, you got to see the very best part of Myrna ' her loyalty. And when you saw the depth of her loyalty, you knew you were truly loved.
All activities will be held at Stewart Baxter Funeral & Memorial Services, 1844 1st Ave NE, Cedar Rapids, Iowa. A visitation will be held Friday, January 26, 2024, from 3-7 p.m. A celebration of life will be held Saturday, January 27, 2024, at 10 a.m. A reception will immediately follow the service. Attendees are encouraged to wear their favorite Hawkeye gear.Those unable to attend are invited to watch the service via livestream. Please find the livestream link on Myrna's Tribute Wall and share your support and memories with her family at www.stewartbaxter.com under Obituaries.
Donations may be made to the family, who will perform service projects once per month in Myrna's honor. Support will be provided to: Tanager Place, Willis Dady Shelter, and Dennis & Donna Oldorf Hospice House. Other organizations will be chosen based on Myrna's passions.
We are deeply sorry for your loss ~ Stewart Baxter Funeral & Memorial Services – Cedar Rapids
Dear Aunt Myrna, Please know what an important part of our family you were, after losing our father, your older, brother, you stood by Mom, and always made sure that she was never forgotten as your sister and friend you did the same for all seven of us children and we will be forever grateful for having you in our lives, you were always the rock for a lot of people, Rest peacefully, your niece and friend🥺
Sending you strength, love and our deepest sympathies at the passing of Myrna. We love you.
Myrna was a wonderful caring person and always thought of other people! She will be missed for her laughter and wit. Thinking loving memories!.
We did not know Myrna well, but heard many humorous stories and heaps of praise from my brother Tom Moran. She worked with Tom in the Cedar Rapids School System. Our sincere sympathies for your loss.
Terry and Joyce Moran
Love Jim,Joe and Joyce,Tom and Nancy,Cathy and Alva,George and Kris,Lenny and Frank.
Myrna will always hold a special place in my heart, having worked with her for many years at CRCSD. What a treasure she was for so many! She will be greatly missed.
Sendng my deepest sympathy….
Rhoda Shepherd
Our deepest sympathies are with All of You-Family and Friends of Aunt Myrna. May your Hearts heal with Joyful Memories of All the Love Myrna shared
Myrna you were so important to everyone whoever knew you, worked with you, or had any association with you as a child, young adult, professional, or phenomenal human being. The obituary was well written and highlighted so many of the things that everyone appreciated! Thanks for everything you did for me, teaching peers, administrators, and all who knew you!! May God bless you and your family and I know the good Lord already has you in the heaven above. Rest in peace MYRNA LOY STEINKE SMITH!!!
It was great knowing you and having you be such an important individual in yhe Cedar Rapids Community School District! God bless you!!
Our Aunt Myrna – while so many tears are being shed over your struggles and passing, know that you have brought laughter and Joy to us All. Your Sincerity, Passion for Life and Boundless Energy are Treasures you gave of freely. You and Carter Brightened our Lives and especially Our Mom Pulver’s, Arleen. ❤️ How excited She was knowing You weee both on the Way. 🙏
We have lost such a wonderful woman, the strength, kindness, and overwhelming love that she had for all of her family and friends was beyond measurable, aunt Myrna you will never be forgotten. You have touched so many lives over the years with your big heart, never passing judgment on anyone, always letting your heart guide the way ,God has gained another beautiful angel rest easy aunt Myrna♥️
With deepest sympathy, From, Rich & Susan Young, Kari Bullerman, Suzanne & Sean Sutton, Dick & Audrey Young
Myrna was my secretary at Erskine Elementary. Wow. What a gal. She was so competent. She made my job so much easier. The staff loved her and trusted her judgement. The parents enjoyed talking with her and trusted her judgement. The students enjoyed their encounters with her. She worked hard and enjoyed it. She will be missed. My deepest sympathy to Carter and her children. I know they have countless fond memories to recall with joy. I know I do.
Dear Dawn,
Our sincere sympathies to you and your family. May your dear mother enjoy her new heavenly home, as we celebrate her life.
Our prayers and thoughts are with you in this journey!
Terese and Patty
I got to know Myrna when I was a secretary in the CRCSD. She was my “go to” person if I ever had a question about anything. She knew everything and was always so kind and also funny. She could sure make me laugh. I got to know her through the years and considered her a friend.
Her obituary perfectly described her. I’m so sorry for your loss.
Bonnie Galbraith Raddatz
In remembrance of Myrna, from Lindy and Rylan, Scott and Susan, David
I was trying to get a job with the district a few days before the start of the school year. I heard that there was an opening but did not know where. So I went to the offices and there was Myrna. I tried to get her to tell me where the opening was but she didn’t budge. So I went home and baked cookies and went back offering them to her as a bribe. She said she needed to taste one first. Eventually she gave me the school’s name for the plate of cookies… and THEN she told me they had publicized that information earlier that day. I just loved her from that moment on. We will miss you Myrna. Rest in peace. ❤️. -Chris Walsh Werner
Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Love,Sharon Ward, Jon & Diana Ward, Julie Ryan, Marcie Sawyer, & Jim & Laurie Ward
I had the pleasure of caring for Myrna at Hall Perrine Cancer Center. When I first started working at HPCC I was not very good at starting IV’s and Myrna was not an “easy stick”. When I would miss her IV she would always tell me, “just keep trying” or “you’ll get it this time”. When I would finally get her IV placed she’d say, “See, I knew you could do it!”. Myrna gave me so much grace and was my cheerleader until I gained more confidence. I will miss our conversations and giving her updates on “the babies” as she would call my kids. I am so blessed to have gotten to know and care for Myrna. ❤️
I first met Myrna while working for the school district and as you all know she was one of a kind! What a gem. Then I started volunteering at the Hall Perrine Cancer center and our paths crossed again. She was as spunky as ever, always positive and rolled with the punches. I will forever miss you Ms Myrna and Carter I will miss bringing you your coffee. Fly high beautiful lady! 🙏🏼
I, as one of many health secretaries that had the pleasure of working with Myrna. Myrna was a go to resource for us when we were hired as well as throughout our tenure in at CRCSD. If there was a question asked, and you needed an answer, her name would come up immediately. Her wit was flowing & great natured. She will never be forgotten having made her mark. You are one of a kind Myrna. My condolence to her family and loved ones.
Tami L. Stephens